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Sick

You know it’s almost (ALMOST!) comical! I was fine, and feeling good. I got in my van and headed out to pick Bryan up on Wednesday. I was A-OK! His brother who lives in the Atlanta area graciously offered to pick Bryan up at Benning for me that morning and bring him half-way to meet me! Awesome!

So, we meet at a Texas Roadhouse and decide to eat supper there. Brother Hooah! had to go, but Bryan and I stayed and had a meal and chatted. I was fine! I was A-OK! Then on the way home I began to notice a tickle in the back of my throat. The tickle in the back of my throat started getting scratchy and painful after about 100 miles on the road. We stopped and I got ice cream to help soothe it. Sure enough I now have some full blown upper-respiratory cold thing going on. Ugh. I even missed gym today because I couldn’t breathe. So, kick boxing starts tomorrow and I am going whether I can breathe or not!

It just seems comical that I have been just fine and not seasonal maladies (other than a few days with a fever when I was just wore out a few weeks back). I have had no colds or flus though… and then the day I pick him up I get sick as we driving back. Of course I am super worried that he will get it. The last thing the man needs now is to get sick. Well, maybe Monday will be a fresh start after a weekend of rest!

Take care you all. I hope you are doing fun things this weekend.

Nutrition and Bone Health –It’s not just for women!

Mr. Hooah! is officially home and we have now enjoyed our first 24 hours of reunited bliss. He is doing incredibly well, which is a wonderful testimony to the very responsive care he received the day of his stress fracture. The surgeon who put him back together also did an incredible job, and because of all the immediate care he received he is healing now. I have been reading a lot about stress fractures and bone health. Part of me is needing some reassurance that there is a way to prevent such a thing from happening again. The good news is there is a lot we can do, both in daily activities and in daily nutrition, to at least reduce our risk for such a fracture.

Mr. Hooah! does not have osteoporosis, and the pathology on his bone came back clean. With the absence of a complicating or confounding diagnosis, he is expected to recover just fine. His recovery is so well expected that he does not have to be reviewed by a medical board. This is all good news. My research and reading has convinced me, however, that men’s bone health is greatly understated. Bone health and research is mostly aimed at women. Women are, by far and large, the ones who are the most affected by bone health issues such as osteoporosis. Men, and in particular female and male soldiers in TRADOC may be at a higher risk due to the amount of stress put on their bodies while they fulfill the physical requirements of training. From the articles I came across it seems that the majority of stress fractures happen within this time in career of a soldier.

Some articles pointed to technique and form — mostly related to running. I did not find much on ruck marches and what affects running in combat boots and gear would have on a soldier’s bones. I found a summary of some research that was funded by the DoD back in 1999, but I did not find the follow up information. I am sure it is out there, but I have not had much luck locating it yet. What I did find was one article that seemed to sum up the information that I found on bone health in general. My first gift to Mr. Hooah! was a huge bottle of calcium supplements. Even if he does not have a bone disease that causes thinning and breakage, he could develop it later in life. Men need calcium supplements too! Unless they have a diet that is very well saturated with calcium rich foods (and you can only absorb about 500mg at a time, so it has to be meted out through the diet), then he probably needs a supplement. Of course if you are concerned then you really need to talk to your doctor. I am a social worker and I do not have medical training so talk to your physician. That’s my disclaimer, and now onto the highlights of the article I found:

Bone health for everyone:
Women and men at any age
By Kim Verity

(excerpted and snipped where indicated)

LINK to entire article

May is National Osteoporosis Awareness and Prevention Month, sponsored by the National Osteoporosis foundation. Often called a “silent disease,” osteoporosis is a bone-thinning disease that weakens bones and causes them to break.

According to the foundation, 10 million Americans have the disease and another 18 million have low bone mass, placing them at an increased risk of developing osteoporosis.

Men are not immune to this bone-thinning disease, but due to their larger bone mass, the disease usually hits them later in life. At the age of 75, men are equally likely to develop osteoporosis. Unfortunately, younger women in their 30s are also being diagnosed with early stages of the disease.

(snip)

… You are never too young nor too old to improve your bone health. Thinking about building strong bones begins as early as age 9.

Children 9-18 can build up their bone bank by eating 1,300 mg of calcium daily (easily met by three servings of dairy foods, such as low-fat milk) and participating in regular weight-bearing exercises such as walking, jogging or team sports.

So, you may already know that adult men and women need 1,000 mg to 1,200 mg of calcium a day to maintain strong bones. Calcium is a principal component of bone. Unfortunately, most Americans do not meet the recommended guidelines (snip)…

The best source of calcium is dairy foods. The lactose sugar found in these foods actually helps the body to absorb and utilize the calcium. To meet your calcium goal, aim for three servings of low-fat dairy a day. (snip) …

It’s always best to meet your calcium requirement through foods, but if you are not able to do so, a calcium supplement may be advised. Our bodies can only absorb about 500 mg at a time, so it’s best to take smaller doses with each meal. If your calcium intake is too low, your body will take calcium from your bone to make up the difference. This is one of the major causes of bone loss.

Vitamin D intake can increase the amount of dietary calcium that is absorbed and used by the body. It is now recognized that vitamin D deficiency is an unrecognized epidemic throughout the United States.

Federal guidelines recommend 600 I.U. of vitamin D after age 50, but experts argue that the requirement should be increased to 800 I.U. daily. As we age, our body’s ability to produce vitamin D in the skin from sunshine decreases. We also tend to get less sun exposure and wear more sunscreen, which blocks vitamin D production.

When we talk about bone health, calcium and vitamin D get all the attention, but there are many other important vitamins and minerals essential for healthy bones. This bone-making and maintenance team includes vitamins A, C and K, magnesium, potassium and zinc. These vitamins and minerals either contribute directly to bone formation or help bones retain and utilize calcium.

(snip)

Regular weight-bearing exercise such as walking will help keep your bones strong. But you also need strength training to increase the activity of the bone-building cells. The old saying “Use it or lose it” also applies to your bones.

If you are not physically active, your bones weaken. But if you do regular weight-bearing and resistance exercises, you can actually build new bone. The American Orthopaedic Society for Sports medicine recommends weight-bearing exercise for at least 30 minutes a day, three or four times a week. This includes walking, jogging, climbing stairs, hiking, dancing and even doing housework. You can split up your exercise throughout the day; it does not need to be done all at once to benefit your bones.

In addition, it’s recommended that you include resistance exercises such as working with free weights or on weight machines two to three times a week. Your bones and muscles need at least one day to rest in between resistance workouts.

So, what dietary factors contribute to bone loss? A bottle of cola may be bad news for your bones. A recently published study (October 2006) in the Journal of Clinical Nutrition found that just one cola a day (either diet or regular) decreased bone density in women by 5 percent. The researchers also found that the more cola women in their study drank, the lower their bone density was.

It’s still not clear why colas can weaken bones. Some researchers suspect that it’s the phosphoric acid found in colas that may be contributing to bone loss. Coffee, both decaf and regular, also contains high amounts of phosphoric acid. It makes sense to limit the amount of cola and coffee you do drink, especially for those 9-18 who are in the process of building their peak bone mass.

The Framingham Osteoporosis Study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition (July 2002) found that diets high in sweets (candy) were associated with lower bone density in both men and women. High-sodium diets were also linked to bone loss. The average American consumes 6,500 mg of sodium a day while the recommended levels are less than 2,400 mg.

Five tips for healthy bones

1. Get the recommended daily requirements of calcium and vitamin D.

2. Eat fruits and vegetables every day. Strive for at least five total servings a day. Even if you simply increase your current intake by one more serving, studies show that your health will benefit. So, pack an extra apple or banana in your lunch today.

3. Avoid smoking and excessive alcohol and limit beverages high in phosphoric acid (colas and coffee) to one or two a day. Also, limit your intake of sugar and salt.

4. Engage in regular weight-bearing exercise and add resistance training to your exercise routine.

5. Know your risk of developing osteoporosis. To get a free personal risk assessment and more information about osteoporosis, check out the National Osteoporosis Foundation’s Web site at www.nof.org.

Making Long Distance Relationships Work

Good article from Military.com by Diana Falzone.

Making a long distance relationship work is hard enough under normal circumstances but added to the stress of military life it can seem completely undoable. But with the right outlook and two committed parties, your relationship can survive.

As part of my weekly Paltalk radio show, I recently sat down at Fort Hood with six soldiers to discuss the dos and don’ts of sustaining a relationship apart. Here are some of the common themes that emerged from those who’ve endured long deployments a time or two:

  1. Communicate often: When your loved one is overseas be sure to send emails, letters and care packages. And beyond that, use technology to your advantage. Nowadays, there are web cams that many soldiers use to see their partner and to get the feeling like they are in the same room with that special someone. A Soldier’s wife told me she likes to perform sexy dances for her husband — and he nodded his definite approval! The possibilities are endless (even more so if you can get a little privacy, of course). And speaking of privacy, that’s probably easier to come by for the spouse at home. Also a spouse should try to remember that accessibility to the telephone or computer can be limited to those deployed. Don’t get frustrated. The effort is what counts to those in the field. Being unconditionally supportive and letting your warfighter know you’re there goes a long way toward keeping the fires burning. And warfighters, we know you’re busy, but you need to make an effort here too.
  2. Keep busy: The days will seem much longer without your spouse. Boredom can be dangerous. Make good choices from the outset. Take advantage of the extra time and spend it with friends and family. If that is not for you, take up a new hobby like exercising or finish forgotten tasks like redecorating the living room. Or get involved at your local base — a place to meet all kinds of spouses who share your situation and can relate to what you’re feeling.
  3. Share Your Feelings: We all want to protect the ones we love, but you also need to be truthful with your significant other. If you are having a hard time with being apart, tell them. It is unfair to both you and your partner to not be open about how you’re feeling, and the ability to be honest is an important element of trust. And without trust the relationship could go south very quickly. Which leads to the next point . . .
  4. Trust each other: If you cannot trust your partner to have a night on the town without you, then your relationship is on rocky ground already. Trust is the foundation healthy relationships are built on. With trust, a relationship can thrive under any circumstances. Without it, it’s — sorry to say — doomed.
  5. Enjoy the time together: Before your warfighter is about to be deployed or during his or her leave, do your best to live in the moment. Enjoy the time together without dwelling on the impending separation any more than you have to. Make memories with special events — candlelight dinners, private picnics, or a trip to your favorite getaway spot. Those memories will be the stuff that gets you through the lonely times during the separation.

Military life in times of high op-tempo isn’t easy, and the anxiety surrounding deployments to hostile areas makes it even harder. But with the right approach relationships can emerge stronger for the separation. And just think about how awesome the reunion will be!

Before I sign off from this, my first column here, let me just say that I’m happy for this opportunity to reach the Military.com audience. Each week I hope to address the issues surrounding relationships and the love lives of the military that matter to you . . . so let me hear from you!

Is a 5K in my future?

I don’t know yet! I just found a 5K run that will be held in November called “The Veteran’s Classic.” I am seriously considering signing up IF I can talk my running partner into going with me, or maybe, just maybe, Mike will be home on leave then and he can run with me! He would totally blow me away, but he can slow it down a little for his old mother. Although Mike’s strength is in endurance. He was a Cross Country runner in high school, and could run some very long distances.

I am really excited that I can even consider this. One year ago there was no way I could have even walked a 5K. Today though… I may be able to run some of it. I am not going to push myself to run it all, but maybe the rhythm of the other runners will keep me going (that is if they all don’t leave me in their dust.

Things to consider when he is coming home…

Here are a few things that have crossed my mind while preparing for Bryan to come through our front door. So many things have changed that used to be norms for our family before he left. Things like Supper. We used to have a sit down family supper every night, and it was the highlight of the day. Everyone participated and we talked, ate and just reconnected. My eating patterns have changed a lot, and I no longer eat a big meal at any point in the day. I am training myself to eat very small meals throughout the day. Also, the home we are in right now is one that he has never seen before. So many changes, and I am sure we are frozen in time in his mind.

So, here’s the list of my top concerns –

1. He may not appreciate eating Special K and bananas for supper.
2. Will he know how to sleep past 4:30 am?
3. Where are his clothes?? I must find them and unpack them from the last move!
4. Will he realize that I own the bathroom counter in the master bath? It’s mine!!
5. Should I let him pick which side of the bed he wants, or should I just assign it to him?
6. Will he like the way I have set the house up?
7. Is he going to walk down the hall yelling “lights out!” at 2200 every night?
8. Will he try and do pull ups on the kitchen door frame before entering to eat?
9. If he calls my kitchen the “mess hall” will it make me upset?
10. Will I become self conscious about the way I run when we are at the gym together? I don’t care what other people think about my form, but if he’s watching… gee … gosh. It makes me blush!
11. If, hypothetically speaking of course, his cordless drill was killed in action while drilling through something like, uhm… granite or something like that, and it was replaced with a pink one, hypothetically speaking of course, would he mind?

I am sure this list has many other items to be added as my excitement over his homecoming grows and grows. I am getting giddy about the idea of seeing him in our home.

If everything goes as expected…

I will pick Mr. Hooah! up on Wednesday for 20 luxurious days of rest and relaxation. Well maybe luxurious, rest and relaxation should not be used to describe the entire time of medical leave. I am sure we will have sufficient medical follow-ups, including physical therapy, to keep us nice and busy.

We are facing integration of the very temporary and wounded kind. It’s a new beast to me, that’s for sure. I imagine that the circumstances around deployment would very much impact and color the reintegration stress. Actually now that I think about it I would have to say we are facing a “reacquainting” stress. He will come and go so fast that we simply can not integrate too much of daily life. If we did that then saying good bye again in 20 days would be way to hard. Also, not really being able to picture his scar or how this broken femoral bone has impacted him is stressful.

So, now my quandary is this… how can my husband come home, and I mean in every way possible, while no longer having a deeply embedded physical role outside of being the primary bread winner and the wonderful man we talk to on the phone? It’s all very complicated. I guess we will just have to very patient with one another. I know it will never be like before so this visit home will be a good introduction to the new us in the home and the physical life. We already know the new us through letters and phone calls.

Regardless I don’t want to over analyze it (notice the word anal is a major part of that word!). I am just ready to trade in the shirt I swiped from him last time we saw one another, for the real man, and his heartbeat.

At The Right Time, We Remember

I was sent a very wonderful Memorial Day reflection written a few years ago by a reader. He has since updated it and passed it on to me. I know that Memorial Day has come and gone, officially. I am also mindful that everyday is Memorial Day for military families, and for Americans who support our heroes! He sent it to me as a word of encouragement. I asked Mike (the author of this piece of work not my soldier Mike) if it would be OK to share his writing with you, and he was kind enough to give me permission. I hope you all enjoy it, and thank you Mike for your words of encouragement and your words of support and acknowledgement for the sacrifices of our men and women in uniform.

AT THE RIGHT TIME, WE REMEMBER
Written by: Mike G.


The honor roll goes back farther than we can remember; it contains names we will never know…

I wasn’t there when the American Colonial Army stood winter guard in the snows of Valley Forge wearing bloody rags for boots as they fought for my freedom.

I wasn’t there in the war of 1812.

I wasn’t in the trenches when the German’s seared the lungs of young American men with mustard gas as they fought for my freedom in World War One.

I wasn’t at Pearl Harbor when a single Japanese bomb detonated a million pounds of black powder on the Arizona and instantaneously killed over one thousand American sailors preparing to defend my freedom against the Japanese and the Nazis.

I wasn’t there to see the Stars and Stripes raised over the beaches of Normandy, or on the heights of Iowa Jima.

I didn’t see the bullet riddled bodies of the Americans who died defending my freedom in Korea.

I only vaguely remember the nightly news clips of American soldiers as they carried out our government’s orders in the jungles and swamps and tunnels of Vietnam.

I haven’t endured the moments, and months, of not knowing, while I prayed for a spouse’s safe return, and raised a family alone.

I have never been with a family who lost a son or a daughter, or a daddy, or a mommy defending Kuwait, Afghanistan, or Iraq.

I wasn’t there with any of them when they suffered as prisoners of war in any of these wars.

I have never been with a family whose child died in a peace time military training exercise.

Not every one of our veterans saw combat. Some were clerks, cooks, mechanics, and machinists. Some served during war time, some served during peace time, some serve in peace today, ready for battle tomorrow. Today they prepare for the ongoing war against terrorists. Some gave their lives, some suffered wounds, some saw things that no human should ever have to see, and many did things that no human should ever have to do. PTSD? I’ve never walked there. Yet all of these gave their daily life, for a period of time, while many more gave their time to work in the industries that sustained our veterans.

Not all of those who have protected my freedom were even in the military. Some of them were the firemen, policemen, and paramedics who risked their lives each day, rushing in where most of us would never tread. Some are civilian contractors truck driving in support convoys in war zones. Some are the doctors and nurses who treat the wounded, and go home and cry for them. Some of them were “just” passengers on a commercial airline flight who, with faith in Christ, calmly chose to fight, and die if necessary, rather than let Flight 93 be used as a weapon against their country and their fellow citizens.

When I tried to join the US Air Force, my application was turned down for medical reasons.

Because others were, and will be there, I am privileged to continue to live in the greatest nation the world has ever known and to enjoy the greatest freedoms that any people have ever known.

The honor roll stretches forward to times, and places, and names we will never know…

So I thank you, veteran, whoever you are, and wherever you are, whenever your service.

Thank you Vet. Thanks Dad. Today, I remember WHY I am free, and I thank you.

I know that when you were asked, at the right time, like Christ, you gave your life for me.

The Road Not Taken

Thanks to Cathy who sent me the last stanza of Frost’s famous poem as a reminder to hang tough during this time. It’s a poem of reflection, and one I can relate to! I think I know this road — I may even live on it!


I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I–
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
– Robert Frost